Happiness is an inside job
Today I’ve been in my head a lot, thinking about if I had everything I wanted and my loved ones had everything that they wanted right now, would that make them happy?
Well, yes……initially. The
new house, the new car, the money in the bank, not having to worry about going
to work or where the money is coming from to pay the bills. Travelling the
world in 1st class, eating what you want and just living it up! Of
course that would be awesome, I’m not denying that, however, we still come back
to a point of wanting more. No matter what we have, our minds can miraculously
find a way to see a problem in a near perfect existence.
The dopamine runs out, and we start looking for more. The things that were new and shiny are now old and boring. We end up back where we started. Longing, seeking, craving and wanting more, driving us to a place of unhappiness……if we let it.
I think once you recognise this cycle of unhappiness, you can see it for what it is and start taking action to remedy this potentially negative cycle.
It’s in these moments of feeling unsatisfied that we need to breathe and just accept the present moment as it is. There are times when I’m stuck in traffic and I can feel the anger and frustration arising from within. This is when I take a deep breath and think, even if I had millions of dollars sitting in the bank right now, I would still be stuck in traffic. I may be in a slightly nicer car, but I would still have to deal with this anger and frustration arising.
No matter what our situation is in life, we still have to deal with our inner emotions. This is where meditation can play an enormous role in helping to see what’s really bugging us, and with practice, we can begin to distance ourselves from the negative emotions and start cultivating positive ones, which invites happiness! I also recommend practicing gratitude and giving without expecting anything in return highly on the happiness boosting ladder!
Next time you feel like you need something outside of yourself to feel happy, look within and generate it yourself!